The Joys of Motherhood

Two weeks ago it dawned on me that I am about to be the parent of a pre-teen. Along with that comes so many things boys, dating, middle school, peer pressure, and puberty. LAWD I am not ready. It seems like yesterday that I had Justice, but in July it will be 11 years. As her mother I felt I was supposed to teach her all of life's lessons, but she in turn has taught me so much. As a new mother at the age of 20 she taught perserverance to finish college early. She motivated me to keep pushing when I wanted to give up because I refused to be a statistic or to have her to watch me struggle. She has shown me unconditional love, compassion and admiration that I never thought imaginable. These are traits that I am not sure I would have learned as early had God not have given her to me. So to Him I say thank you for entrusting me with such a precious, wonderful gift. At first I thought, why me? Now I know that motherhood is an assignment that all are not entrusted with and many do not do well. So I am humbled and gracious that God saw so much in me and I have enjoyed and will continue to enjoy this wonderful adventure!

The Relationship Rollercoaster

So earlier today I was talking to a male friend of mine who has been on the emotional roller coaster at the Relationship Amusement Park.As I sat and listened to him I started to notice some of the same signs that plagued my last relationship. I past no judgment and he knows that I will be honest and let him know when he is right and when he is wrong. After our conversation I begin to wonder. Why is it that the state of relationships is really so jacked up these days. I truly believe it is because we are a generation that has become so self-absorbed that we don’t know what it is like to be self-less. To love means to be selfless and humble. Not to have the “what have you done for me lately” mentality. It is true, most relationships are one-sided. One partner is usually more willing to give more than the other. My question is how can one proclaim to love someone, but not be their confidante, the one to protect their feelings…. Their FRIEND. A significant other has been reduced to nothing more than an accessory. Men want a woman who is “thick”, “bad”, “a dime” physically, but doesn’t possess any substance. That accessory usually comes at a higher cost. Yes she may be physically appealing, but is she catering to emotional and spiritual needs. Can you talk to and relate to her? And at the end of the day to you righteously like her as a person? Something to think about, huh? Ladies you are not off the hook! Because he looks good on paper by having the great career, lots of money, and willing to trick it off does not show his love for you. Where is attention is, his affection lies. Are you worthy of being kept, loved and being held in high esteem. A self-assessment and some humility are critical if there is any future of preserving love and what it is meant to be. Just my humbled observation and opinion. I am not perfect, but I am willing to work tireless until I get it right because true love is worth it.